experimenting with alcohol and marijuana. I have cleaned up my act, matured, grown up.... I was never addicted to either of these at any time so I do not know or understand chemical abuse. someone please help me understand.
My husband is 27 years old and has drank from the day we met. Although he doesn't drink as much as he did in the beginning he still drinking a lot more than he should. It is getting to the point where I told him I am fed up and I'm about ready to quit because I try and try to help but he keeps walking all over me. We have two children, I love him more than you can imagine and I dont want to give up but I get so hurt and angry. I say things I don't mean in hopes that it will scare him and he will get his shit together. but also he knows I am a weak person.
I dont know what to do. He is lying about it. hiding his beer and going off to drink it. Last night i found a 6 pack hidden under the balcony. a couple weeks ago it was under our neighbors camper in our parking lot, and a week before that I found it in the basement in our storage unit. Im tired of the lying and hiding. It started off as problems with the drinking but its blown up into our whole relationship. our trust.
He wont go to a docotor.
He wont go to AA.
He thinks I am trying to trap him and taking away the only thing he enjoys.
I love my husband and I want things to work out. We have two amazing kiddos and they deserve more than this!!
I go to my first al-anon meeting on Tuesday. I am terrified.
Thanks for any help!!!!
i really don't know what to say or even where to begin. my heart is breaking. I am not a drinker and never really was except for when I was in high school